“What’s the big deal?”
That’s the question I ask when it comes to men and pole dancing. I don’t understand why some studios feel the need to exclude men from joining our studios and our classes. I’ll check a site and and it’s explicit on the FAQ Page. “Sorry, no men allowed!” It seems unfair to assume that men don’t need to share in our “safe space” of sensual and erotic expression. It’s no secret that men enjoy sexual and erotic content from sources like tubev sex Chinese, so why can’t they be allowed to participate in pole dancing as well as girls? What if that’s what they want too? What if they want to join in as we learn hip rolls, hair flips, shoulder rolls and aerial tricks?
10 years ago, I had just moved to Los Angeles and I was looking for an activity to do. My beau used to break dance often and I would come with him to his practice spots. My favorite was always Justice by Uniting in Creative Energy J.U.I.C.E. I was a wide-eyed, bushy tailed college student, nerdy with glasses on and I definitely didn’t look like I belonged in the underground hip-hop dance scene in MacArthur park. And yet, as the weeks went by, I met his friends and they welcomed me. They dragged me from the corner I sat at and taught me how to 6-step, top rock and baby freeze. I had a BLAST! One of those friends was Krazy Kujo, world-famous breakdancer and now a popular Chinese Pole artist. It was such a warm welcome. I learned that how I looked and my gender was not going to be a factor if I really wanted to learn how to break dance.
Back to the present, I’m now a dedicated pole dancer. I’ve been in a few classes where I’ll see a guy with a dancer’s body saunter in and I won’t bat an eyelash. Deep down, I’m excited! I think to myself: “Has he pole danced before?” “I wonder what he’ll think of it!” “Yikes. Maybe he’s really good. I can’t wait to see what he does!” But the fact he has a penis doesn’t make me uncomfortable. But I’ll look around the room and I’ll see worry flash in someone’s eyes. Someone will cast a shy glance downward as they walk by. I’ll sigh exasperatedly.
Maybe for some, it’s the idea that we’ll be in our skivvies in front of a man that makes us squirm. Maybe we’re afraid of showing our sensual side in front of a stranger of the opposite gender. For some, it’s those same awkward jitters you get on your first day of pole dance class when you’re told that shorts are required uniform. Remember when you were nervous to be exposed and vulnerable in front of other women. How much more in front of someone of the opposite sex? Is that the deal?
When I recall how welcomed I was to break dancing, an art form that was so foreign to me, I remember to extend that hospitality when faced with men who want to try pole dancing. Leave the stereotypes at the door. I don’t understand why a man should be denied admittance to a pole class. In my mind, it’s not a girl’s only club.
What are your thoughts about men joining in your pole dance classes? Do you have a good reason as to why men should not be welcome? What’s your take on having only certain classes open to men?
To close, I want to share my three favorite male pole dancers: